tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6045390691526021049.post8726655969249711271..comments2023-06-28T06:28:27.923-07:00Comments on Nations Around Our Table: Their Grief HurtsShonnihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16652243862329017082noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6045390691526021049.post-37374506963744118362012-07-09T07:46:10.873-07:002012-07-09T07:46:10.873-07:00Oh Shonni...sitting here in tears! Praying like cr...Oh Shonni...sitting here in tears! Praying like crazy for Clive..for your entire family!!! HUGS mama!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10111269425357018640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6045390691526021049.post-74075937600001930492012-07-05T08:53:56.548-07:002012-07-05T08:53:56.548-07:00I know this hurt too too well. After several month...I know this hurt too too well. After several months, I STILL see it. I still hear, "I want to go home" when a certain one gets disciplined. I hate it. I HATE that she has never EVER had healthy attachments and her brain has a hard time even knowing what those ARE! And yet, regardless of the things she feels I am her mama. And I know one day she will choose to be my daughter. And be glad of it.Hezrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09345835447459948572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6045390691526021049.post-90424494139350066282012-07-04T21:11:06.483-07:002012-07-04T21:11:06.483-07:00Oh Shonni, this is so hard. I am sorry that you ar...Oh Shonni, this is so hard. I am sorry that you are hurting and sorry that Clive is hurting. Please feel free to continue to share this hurt on your blog...it can be so healing to know that others care. Plus, then we can pray for you!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04455698547207302964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6045390691526021049.post-12261523810101961842012-07-04T16:09:08.929-07:002012-07-04T16:09:08.929-07:00Ouch, Shonni. My mama heart feels it with you, to...Ouch, Shonni. My mama heart feels it with you, too. May the LORD do a wonderful work in your son in His time. And may He comfort your heart and encourage you in the meantime. Love and HUGS, ChenningChenninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17683828108664457085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6045390691526021049.post-86911693411031932422012-07-04T10:36:56.994-07:002012-07-04T10:36:56.994-07:00praying for you and Clive with a mother and grandm...praying for you and Clive with a mother and grandmother's heart ..<br />your love .. patients.. and ..determination is amazing .. May the Lord<br />give you refreshing peace as He walks with you through your ongoing journey ..<br />your praying sister<br />jackie in floridaunt jackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03505221201724986586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6045390691526021049.post-12039676504034365432012-07-04T10:27:11.886-07:002012-07-04T10:27:11.886-07:00I understand what you're saying, Shonni! I do!...I understand what you're saying, Shonni! I do! So painful. I grieve for our now nine-year-old who misses her foster mommy and daddy and the four foster siblings she's lived with for the past five years, and I would guess that she will continue to grieve for them the rest of her life -- they were, from her perspective, her real family, and one day we came along and took her away from all that -- my worst childhood nightmare played out on another child by my own actions on her behalf. It's a double-edged sword that cuts very deep. But I do also grieve the moments when I know that our love is not enough for her, and that what she really wants deep down is her foster mama and the home she grew up in. I WANT our love to be "enough" for her, even as I recognize that I would probably have felt the same way she does, had the same thing happened to me at her age. What a jumbled mess of emotions! I give it all to God. I don't know what else to do. May He bring in His deep, compassionate healing for us all. I am praying for you and all your little ones, and especially for Clive.thesleepyknitterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16656285733945917516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6045390691526021049.post-17576813179865317762012-07-03T20:14:08.973-07:002012-07-03T20:14:08.973-07:00Oh how I know personally how hard this is! I'm...Oh how I know personally how hard this is! I'm so sorry for him and you! Hugs and prayers! I'm always here if you need me!<br /><br />xoAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17247824698674815568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6045390691526021049.post-84996060503477000312012-07-03T09:11:04.840-07:002012-07-03T09:11:04.840-07:00Ouch. I'm so sorry. I'm praying for you ri...Ouch. I'm so sorry. I'm praying for you right now, and for poor Clive. Dear God, redeem and mend together!Rachel Goodehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05145248276487668178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6045390691526021049.post-75719468047802311182012-07-03T08:29:44.664-07:002012-07-03T08:29:44.664-07:00Ohhhhh how it hurts!!!!!!! Praying he lets you in!...Ohhhhh how it hurts!!!!!!! Praying he lets you in! I know the hurt you feel! Love you and thank you for your encouragement!Jodihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06737851959223104150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6045390691526021049.post-66906576027245358762012-07-03T08:24:54.091-07:002012-07-03T08:24:54.091-07:00Oh man, that is so hard! I pray that Clive's ...Oh man, that is so hard! I pray that Clive's heart will be softened and able to receive your love very soon. And I am so glad that Noelani is doing so well, that is great- hard, but good. Hang in there, you are doing a great work for the Lord!Carmenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18149143366682107194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6045390691526021049.post-55272125447472405332012-07-03T08:13:48.133-07:002012-07-03T08:13:48.133-07:00I will be praying for all of you, and especially C...I will be praying for all of you, and especially Clive.TMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07286478123906643035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6045390691526021049.post-2436258921342125082012-07-03T07:17:20.494-07:002012-07-03T07:17:20.494-07:00My heart hurts for you! Remember that this is jus...My heart hurts for you! Remember that this is just a moment in God's great plan. You are faithful to Him and He will carry you through this. And then one day you will both look back and not remember the pain because of the great love that together with God you grew. I too read Steve's earlier post and wished we could have you over to dinner and playdates. If you're ever in the South Bend area... (long time follower, first time poster)The Towers Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05707047165500657020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6045390691526021049.post-87002649473977533772012-07-03T03:22:18.805-07:002012-07-03T03:22:18.805-07:00I think...there is not much harder....then being p...I think...there is not much harder....then being pushed away time after time. Hopefully, that will change with Clive in time and he will learn to trust and allow himself to love and be loved. But speaking from someone who has been pushed away for almost 4 years now....it doesn't get any easier on the Mama if it continues :(Difference2This1https://www.blogger.com/profile/00984690062311016144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6045390691526021049.post-60156026242887318182012-07-02T23:15:24.127-07:002012-07-02T23:15:24.127-07:00Shonni,
It is so hard, isn't it? Oh how we ...Shonni, <br /><br />It is so hard, isn't it? Oh how we long for our adopted children to accept us and love us as their parents. It makes me think of how God loves us and wants us to be His and yet, he patiently and persistently loves us into that relationship with Him - but still, we have to choose it.<br /><br />I am praying for Clive tonight, that he might be able to see past the hurts and fears and will truly see your love for him. That he might be able to trust you as his mama.<br /><br />Love, prayer, and understanding from a mama who's been there!<br />JenJenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00527179790853642812noreply@blogger.com