I’m sorry that I haven’t written sooner, but we were desperate for some time with these precious people...brother Kim, sister (in-law) Karla, and my parents - known around the world as Dandy and Gommy.
I know that it is absolutely crazy to take two newly adopted and (older) children and stick them in a van (for a grand total of 14 people and a small dog), and travel to Texas. However, if ya’ll have been around much, you know that our extended family is extremely important to Steve, me and our children. I knew that do or die, this trip was part of the journey that we were to travel with our new children.
So, what about our new children, Noelani and Clive?
THANK YOU SWEET JESUS, and THANK YOU for all your prayers and sweet notes to our family. The LORD has heard our prayers, and they did AMAZINGLY well!
Want to see some pictures? (I knew you were just waiting).
It was so GOOD to see happy after all that we had all been through. They each, in their own way, warmed up and feel in love with their new family. I’m not sure that I understand it, but once we were together in Texas with all of my family, things begin to “relax” with Noelani and Clive. Not that there weren’t (and still aren’t) certain behaviors and battles, but it seems that they began to get a picture of “family” and, of course, what could be better than a family that has fun?!!! Each day they seemed to relax and love a little more. My family was amazing, as usual.
My new daughter (in-law), Karlie, knows sign language very well, and 1st up taught Noelani the sign for “you are beautiful”. After that we would all say that to her, and within a few days she was saying it back to all of us, including Dandy (LOL-we think he is beautiful too). Noelani wasn’t to sure of her new Dandy at first, but he would look at her and tell her “I love you”, which she understood and she would say “no”, kind of in a teasing manner, but by the end of the week she was saying it to him, just to start the game of love. Gommy showered them each with her normal laughter and fun and just included them in her beautiful world of joy and blessings.
And as the stress began to melt away (at least SOME), I began to fall in love again with this little boy;
And this little girl.
And I began to let go of some of my expectations and embrace the gift of these children, with their past, their fears and our future together.
Our other children are doing awesome with their new siblings. They are very patient and do what children do ... play.
It’s good to be home again. Clive did cry when we drove up to the house. Best I can figure from sign language and Chinese words is he thought he had just enjoyed a great vacation and we were going back to China. But, what I also saw in this precious little boy is that he LOVES deeply. He cried when Jace left, and then again when we left Uncle Kim and Aunt Karla, and then he cried a long time when we left Dandy and Gommy. I think he loves his new family and also, naturally, misses the only “home” he has ever known. He settled pretty quickly though and began to look at family pictures as I was writing this post. He would point to each family member and tell me their name;
and then, just to make me fall in love with him more, he would kiss each picture. (I know, precious, or what).
Noelani is doing so well. She did cry some and look out the window at the beach house when she listened to her music that we bought in China. But she is also so very helpful and sweet and will give us a hug when she is excited and tell us “I love you” in both English and Chinese. So Cute!!! She really wants to work with us now, and I think the biggest frustrations will slowly go away as she learns more English, and we just get “to know” each other more. She loves having a family that cares about her and seems to be a “people person”.
Well, I must go help Steve now...but here are a few more pictures and I will catch up more this week.
I love you all so much, and can never thank you enough for your prayers, support, encouragement and help through this time in my life. You each have truly meant more to me than I can say.