Monday, April 20, 2009

Attachment-How does God do it?

Do you see my house reflecting in the water drop? Fun huh?

My new blog friend at Transformed from Glory to Glory has been studying the Bible to seek His Word for what she calls a "Christ-Centered" Attachment with our children. There are many books and counselors that talk about the importance of a healthy attachment. In the last dozen or so years, discussions and books about attaching and connecting with our children have become more popular as families have brought children home through adoption. Many of these children have some early childhood trauma and, well, just haven't been parented. I'm glad that so many parents are taking seriously their little ones hearts and overall health.
However, in my heart, and for my family I felt that I needed to really study more from the Bible about attaching to my children and mothering them all with their different needs, hurts, strengths and weaknesses. I want to find out what HE has to say about it all, after all, He is a Father and has brought children home though adoption as well. As Transformed said, I believe, "by faith, that God's word and the love of Christ is sufficient to form a "Christ-Centered" attachment with our children, especially our adopted children."
I was studying from John Ch. 15. 1-12. Please read it if you can. Jesus is talking to the disciples about abiding in Him, the true vine.
In John 15 I see, that part of my purpose as their mother is to FIRST, make sure that I am abiding in Christ. What does that look like? Everyday I must make sure that I am attached to Him! We need to ask ourselves if we are? I need to continue in a daily, personal relationship with Jesus. Trust, prayer and obedience will be a foundational part of that relationship. This is what Jesus models for us in His relationship with His Father. And, as shown in vs. 11, Jesus had great joy in obeying His Father. I need to teach my children to obey us with "joyfulness and gladness of heart." (See Deut. 28:47).
Next, as I have studied and prayed, I felt that the LORD was telling me to "bring them near" (Eph. and another study for another day). After all, abiding in Christ is being NEAR to Him.
I have more thoughts to share, but this is getting long and I need to put little darlin's down for nap.


  1. Great post. I don't think all the parenting books in the world could tell you the great knowledge of love and understanding that comes from the Bible and our Lord. I will have to read John Ch. 15. 1-12.

  2. Amen Jenny. Thanks for sharing this post. I love the parallel between the vine and the branches, beautiful. I am so excited to study alongside you. This is wonderful. Hugs from Africa

  3. Such truth! I love how God gives wisdom when we seek it! Thank-you for sharing your heart with us! And a beautiful heart it is!!! :o) Love in Christ, Becca

  4. I have sooo loved reading and studying her study on attachment. I have to take it so slowly because it is so rich! Amazing stuff.

    Wow, that picture of your house in the water drop is incredible.

    I am trying to catch up. Sick! Ug, bad timing as I leave for Africa on Friday. I LOVED Kalyn's book review. She is an incredible writer. Seriously gifted.

  5. I love this so much! :-) thanks for sharing!

  6. I agree! Christ made us all differently and unique. He knew all about us, where we would be, what will happen etc. The best parenting book is the Bible... so simply did Jesus put it "Seek ye first the kingdom of God and then all of these things shall be added unto you." When we seek Him, we know His purpose which is best for our lives and those of our children.

  7. I clicked on this post because I'm good friends with "Transformed" and wondered what YOUR take on God's Attachment was. Very funny that you are quoting HER!! :-)


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